Thoughts to start the New Year

*I started this draft in September. I never got to it, and as I searched through my drafts, I found it, and thought it might be some interesting thoughts to start the New Year with. Share your thoughts and ideas below the post. Happy New Year!* 


In dealing with life, and you deal with it if you are alive, whether we like to or not, we deal in relationships. Everything we do has an affect on someone or something else.

Let me say that again…

Everything we do has an affect on someone or something else. 

I’ve never had very healthy romantic relationships, and I’ve had some very unhealthy friendships (which are relationships please remember). Much of that has to do with me not understanding what I, my emotions and my time are worth. I believe it is our call to love people in this world, no matter who they are or what they believe. Sometimes you may dislike a person very much, that doesn’t mean you can’t love them. We need to learn to understand our role in our relationships, and step out of ourselves to try and understand what the other party is observing, going through or challenged with.

My belief is, if I am trying to be a good person, and treating you with respect, then our relationship has a healthy start. Now, if you can do this for me, and try to be a good person, then we have a healthy foundation.

But what happens when something goes wrong?

If you respect that relationship, you don’t just run away. First of all, YOU MATTER-ESPECIALLY TO THE PERSON YOU ARE RUNNING AWAY FROM! We may run away for many reasons, but we often run when we are afraid, when we do not understand how to handle a situation, or when we do not have control. I put that in bold purposefully.

We will never have full control over our lives, what we do have control over is the way we react to situations.

That shows who we are a person.

If you respect the other party in your relationship, you do your best to communicate everything in the situation. Some may say that’s wrong, but I think we’ve learned many social “norms” because of people wanting to be in control. Relinquish that control and listen and be in the moment.

It is my duty as a friend to love on you, and as my pastor said this sunday, to “put on Christ” to aid you.

Can we learn how to love again? Not just that disney love, that real, everyday love and passion that creates stronger nations and beautiful cultures and a world of hope and peace. Can we? It starts with you and your relationships. What can you do to better yourself, relationship, situation and this world?

I love you.