Another one

If you know me, you know I talk and sing about love often.

Romantic, platonic, familial, self, overwhelming – whatever kind of love it might be, I like to explore it.

I woke up this morning, the last day of winter break before classes begin tomorrow, in a small bed in a small apart in a small town. I woke up with the need, the desire to help people work through what love means to them on different levels and through different spaces in our lives.

As an educator of college-aged young minds, I find there to be a responsibility in making them think. It is not just about me giving answers, or me telling them my prospective, but how do I share moments with them, in hope that they can learn to think and express their thoughts? My first idea is that we must share in a safe space our likes, dislikes, opinions and perspectives. A friend and I speak often about music and good vs. bad, if there is a good vs. bad and what it all means. The one word that comes up so often is context. Everything in life happens in context. As an artist, some feel context should matter, some feel it shouldn’t. As a Black mixed Woman in the United States, context always plays a role in my day to day.

Love, for me, is accepting and honoring EVERYTHING about what it is you love. I love Black People. I love my Black culture. That means ALL of it, some stuff that I may find distasteful, some stuff I secretly bump to, but cannot let all my circles know, some stuff I praise unknowingly and some that you can’t tell me not to like! I love my curly hair. Not everyday do I like it, not everyday is it perfect, but those should not matter when it comes to love.

If I love you, it, that, him, she, they… whatever it is, my goal is to never degrade or dishonor that in which I love. I may not agree, I may not like, I may loathe something about it, but that does not mean stop loving it.

Loving something means helping it be its best, for itself, not for anyone or anything else. But this means, whatever you love, whoever you love has to know what’s best for it. This means, there has to be an honoring and a self love and appreciation that happens. Quiet times, educational times, exploring times, fun times, relaxing times, hard times; We are multi-faceted, life is not a straight path. You cannot expect to behave the same in every situation. You cannot expect everyone who you love to behave like you. You cannot expect everyone to love you. (Whatever you is at this point, place in any noun with the word “you”)

Love is a word. This word is used in so many ways. I just looked up the meaning of this word at have to say I did not love the definitions. Be careful how you use it. Context is important, so is intent.

Love, to me, is an idea, an action. With it, we can change the world, we can change our worlds. With it, we have the power to be better than ever imagined. It’s just about understanding it.

What is love to you? How do you express it? What is something that you love? What is something you don’t like about the thing that you love?

With love,



To my Future Husband….from me as a future wife.

My love,

Know that as you are reading this, I love you. You are a blessing on my life and others.

There are some things that I want to make sure you always remember:

1. We are a team. Between you, me and God we have NOTHING to worry about. Do you remember what we said the day we wed? Hey, let’s continue to talk about those things okay? It’s important that we stay connected.

2. Keep pushing me; spiritually, mentally, emotionally. I will keep pushing as well! I only want your best. I know we’ll both grow and change, but if we are in this together, and we continue to work as a team, we will continue to be on the same page. Help me work out, help me think more deeply, help me pray more passionately.

3. You are handsome. But guess what? your mind, spirit and heart make you THAT much more handsome.

4. I love you, to the moon, till the end of time. My love for you is unconditional. Even when I’m mad and want to throw things at you, it’s because I love you.

5. What’s most important to us is for us to know and believe and grow in only.

6. I love you.

For the moment darling, that’s all I’ve got to say. I hope your day/morning/evening is going wonderfully, and if you need anything, never hesitate to ask. My heart and ears are always open for you, unless we are in our separate alone time.

Love you.


What hurts?

We need to be having the conversations that hurt, that are hard that are uncomfortable. This is why the arts exist, but so often people are clouded by the the appearance that they don’t understand the substance. Be the substance. Consider it a gift to be able to express something that others feel is too hard to address. Help be the catalyst for change. This world bothers me so often nowadays, but I continue to pray and work on my gift so that people may, one day, understand. It’s time to have the tough talks.

So, in trying to keep my own word-what hurts? What would you like to talk about that is hard?
For me, right now, the self hate, the ignorance and naivety to the trials our fellow brother and sister are having all over the world and at home hurts. Why is it that there is still so much animosity towards people of color all over the world? Why is it that so many of the most judgmental people are the ones who call themselves christians? Why did it take me almost 30 years to truly love myself for all that I am? Why is it that people are no longer compassionate? Why don’t people care? Why can black men and women be denied so much in this country? Why is education a business and not a resource? Why is there still so much hunger in our country and so many who cannot read these words? Why is it that we care more about a celebrity wedding than the betterment of our future?


Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality. 

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your won estimation. Never pay back evil for evil to anyone.Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Never take your own revenge, beloved, be leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. “But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Romans Chapter 12:9-21 New American Standard Bible 



I haven’t posted in a little bit. Things in this world are changing. More and more, we are seeing the true colors of the people we share this world with. I’ve always been an advocate of peace, love and hope. I’ve been going deeper into my studies with God, deeper in my studies of self and working out ways to use my gifts for the greater good of the world. I want a mentor, a manager. I want a team that will take me where I want to go. Speak and workshop in places that need to be changed. Start from the ground up. There are dreams that are within me, and I believe God has blessed me with what it takes to make a change. I believe he has done that with all of us, but some of us are not walking in our destiny. 

I want you all to hear me. 

I love you. 

I am a complicated melody (which is why that is tattooed on my back) I am not just how I look, I am not just my families lineage. I am not just my studies. I am the sum of all of that and more. My confidence in myself has grown. 

I’d like to share something that I just posted on facebook. 

You can comment and add and discuss. No slandering of character or defiling of the humans that we share our air with please. 

“My people, don’t let the fact that you don’t see other people fighting, or being mad about ‪#‎Ferguson‬ the way you are divide you from what we need to do. We need to stick together and try and help. Our presence and gifts in this world make a difference. Don’t get caught up in dividing ourselves, get caught up in loving and creating a plan and sticking to that plan. We are multi-faceted people with talents and destinies beyond our wildest dreams. Be the love and the peace that you wish to see. Then do something about what hurts you. This is not a time to argue, this is a time to be about CHANGE. ‪#‎changeisgonnacome‬ ‪#‎sticktogether‬ ‪#‎community‬‪#‎educate‬ ‪#‎donotpacify‬ And love doesn’t mean sit back and pat someone on the back. Love doesn’t mean letting people walk over your beliefs. Love means doing it out of a selfless wish and desire to make our world a better place for all. Do not let the oppressed become the oppressor. Let us not speak of oppression again. That is the goal.”